(1pm) Quotes:
Dr. Ruth-"It isn’t very important how long a
couple have known each other." (That shoots down my theory about knowing someone for
a couple years first.)
"Women, more than men, take pleasure in words and phrases calculated to arouse their ardor." (But with whom, what to say, how to say it, when to say it, where to say it, and why to say it; is what has me confused! (Among other things.))
(2pm) Erica called and visited a bit.
(4pm) I went for a nice long bike ride. (Now tis time for a beer.)
In her book, Dr Ruth says she is against vasectomies. (I can see her point, but I would have ended up with three or four more kids if I hadn't done it.)
(7pm) Erica stopped by and visited for a bit. (Tis nice to have some company, now and then!)
(8pm) The section of Dr Ruth's book that deals with diseases is pretty spooky.
She refers a lot to the book "Joy of sex". (If I get back to sex again I will have to buy a copy.)
Quotes:
Dr. Ruth-"We are different people at different
times in life." (I sure have been. (I seem to tend towards extremes though. (e.g.,
going from almost no sex to twice a day for 8 1/2 years, and now back to almost none
again.) (Maybe someday I will get around to checking out some of the in betweens?)))
"The only way her partner can know what she likes is if a woman lets him know." (Josh once commented that Carrie was good at that. He said she is almost bossy in bed, but that he loved every minute of it.)
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(Midnite) Quiet nite of reading, writing, and music. (Nice.)
(8am) Maybe I am running away again, but I feel it's time to play hermit again. (I am confused about so much, and seem to be fighting with myself a lot. (Maybe some more time alone will allow the wounds to heal a bit more, and give my mind time to still some of the internal struggle.))
(10am) After studying and writing about relationships and sex all weekend, I am having trouble shifting gears and getting back into the computers and numbers.
Most of why I keep studying relationships is to help define what my goals are, how best to approach achieving them, and how to change myself so that I will be someone who is open to intimacy and someone who women will want to play with. (Maybe studying books isn't the best way to learn all this, but it's how I have always learned. (I know that, in time, I will have to take it all out on the street to see how it fits reality, and make modifications based on those experiences; but, this fits my budget and personality for now.))