(11am) Notes from the ozone:
1. Is the question of dependency versus independence really more of a question of attitude, as opposed to behavior?
2. Independent people can be found everywhere, doing all sorts of things. (That is just part of being independent.) (The trick is to figure out which one’s are the independent one’s.)
3. Are people innately dependent or independent, or is that a variable related to conditioning and how much they are orientated towards either "having" or "being"?
4. Drug wars have become an excuse, in the name of which, we have been giving away far too much of our personal freedom.
5. Didn't my ex's dependency give me an excuse to be locked in and dependent myself?
6. Maybe the key to finding a full life is to redefine it? (Instead of crying about there not being a lover in my life and money in my wallet, be joyous about all the love my friends give to me.)
7. Things can be nice to have, but we can't be obsessed with or possessed by them. (Tis more important for us to strive to be all we can be, rather than to have all we can have.)
8. The key to helping others isn't force, punishment, or antagonism; but love and respect.
9. I need to start working on not alienating myself from others. (Just because they are different isn’t a good enough reason. (They are still fellow human beings and deserving of my love.))
10. In striving to be all I can be, I am walking a less traveled path; but I am not alone.
11. Goal attainment is often not as satisfying as we anticipate it to be. (Maybe the answer is to make more of our goals being one’s, rather than having one’s? (Having goals are focused on tangible things that can be attained, while being goals require a continual process that never can be attained. (As such, being goals remain satisfying since we are always in the process of attaining them.)))
12. If you chase someone, don't you, in doing so, make them an object and set yourself up for the disappointment that comes with a having goal?
13. Jealousy is a necessary part of a having orientation, but not of a being one. (If you wish your mate to be all they can be you must stop worrying about possessing them?)
14. Tis sad that the law has separated us from justice.
15. It seems that before you do anything anymore, you have to go find a lawyer first.
16. Could striving for being and independence be part of my problem with women? (Those aren't the qualities we are conditioned by society to respond to, in seeking a mate.)
17. Could the reason so many have trouble at work during a divorce, be that they are fixated at that time in their right brain functions (e.g., emotions) while work requires left brain functions? (e.g., analytical thought)
18. One of the most important things to learn from life is that others aren't going to be who and what you want them to be. (Everyone has to be who she or he is.)
(6pm) I went out for a walk and ran into Hunter. (We were both bored, so we went up to campus and played racquetball. (He won three out of four. (Not too bad, considering that I haven't played in years and he has a thirteen year age advantage.))) (That was fun, but now I am pooped.)
(11pm) Samantha called and we went down to the Paw. (I finally let go and got into dancing. (Such fun!))
I ran into Dante at the Paw. (He was feeling blue because Carrie doesn’t have time for him lately. (Since Hunter came along, she hasn't been giving Dante much of her time.))
I ran into a few other people I know and I had fun shooting the shit with them.